We know that privacy is a big concern for many of our members. It is something we take seriously and something we think it is important to talk about openly.
Before signing up, it is completely normal to feel a little unsure about how private your information will be, or what being part of our community really means in practice. Hopefully this blog helps put your mind at ease.
Over the years, we have met people from all walks of life. Some are confident and open, happy to share what they are up to. Others are quieter, more reserved, or simply prefer to keep parts of their life to themselves.
All of those approaches are valid. There is no right or wrong way to be.
Our aim is to make our meetups and your overall Single & Mingle experience feel safe, relaxed and enjoyable, both physically and emotionally. Building trust is a big part of that, and we work hard to remove as many privacy worries as we can.
Why privacy is important to our members
Not everyone wants their life shared on social media. Not everyone wants others knowing where they go or who they spend time with. And not everyone wants to share contact details, for example. There are lots of reasons for that.
Confidence
This is probably the most common one. Being single and attending social meetups does not automatically mean you feel confident about it.
Many people come along feeling nervous, especially if it’s their first time. Some are testing the waters and seeing how it feels. Others may not feel supported by friends or family and would rather explore things quietly, without feeling exposed or judged.
Culture
For some people, cultural or social expectations make it difficult to be open about their personal life. This is not just about religion. It can also be about family dynamics, friendship circles, or community expectations.
Being private can feel like the safest and most comfortable option.
Ex partners
Break ups are rarely straightforward. For some people, they are particularly complicated.
Whether it is a possessive ex or a relationship that ended badly, being publicly visible in social settings can sometimes feel unsafe. We are very conscious of this and always err on the side of protecting our members.
Social anxiety
Social anxiety is very real and far more common than many people realise.
Trying something new can feel much easier when you are not also worrying about questions, opinions, or attention from others. Sometimes you just need the space to give something a go quietly and see how it feels.
Wanting to do something for yourself
Sometimes it is as simple as wanting to try something on your own.
If you have confident friends who would happily jump in, you might want the chance to find your own footing first. That is completely understandable too.
Whatever your reason for wanting a more private experience, it is relevant and it matters.
What we do to protect your privacy
No pre-event guest lists
We don’t publish the names or photos of the people who are booked to attend our meetups.
We are occasionally asked whether a specific person is booked onto an event. We never share that information, under any circumstances.
This is a firm rule and one we will always stick to.
Details in your member profile
We’re often asked whether all the information you provide when signing up is shared with anyone else.
It is not.
Here’s how we use the information you give us:
- Full name: so we can identify and address you (but please note that only your first name and first letter of your surname will be visible to fellow members)
- Address: so we can send you socials that are local to you
- Date of birth: so we can send age-suitable meetups that might be of interest to you
- Gender, sexual orientation, and pronouns: so we can monitor who attends our meetups, and to help tailor future socials
- Email and mobile number: so we can communicate with you and provide any updates relating to meetups you’re booked onto
For more information, please read our privacy policy
Videography & Photography
As our community has grown, so has the need to show what our meetups are really like. Photos and videos help people understand the atmosphere and decide whether it is right for them.
Our terms around photography and videography changed in January 2026. Our event hosts are now allowed to take photos at the socials they host. By signing up to an event, you are giving your permission to appear in photos that may be used for marketing or community purposes. Full details of how visuals we capture are used can be found in our privacy policy
That said, your comfort always comes first – if you do not want to appear in photos or videos, simply let your host know at the event. They will make sure you’re not included. No awkwardness, no pressure, no explanations needed.
We always aim to keep photography natural and respectful. The focus is on capturing the feel of our meetups, not singling people out.
If you ever have questions or concerns about privacy, photography, or anything else, please get in touch – we are always happy to talk things through.
Hopefully this helps you feel a little more comfortable and a little more confident about coming along.
