Whether you’re about to join our community and attend for the first time, or you’ve been to a few meetups already, a small mindset shift can completely transform your experience. Single & Mingle isn’t about forced conversations or awkwardness. It’s not about dating or finding “the one”. It’s about relaxed social connection, meeting like-minded people, and enjoying yourself.
Here are our top tips to help you make the most of your time at The Social Club for Singles.
1. Dress however makes you feel good
There’s no strict dress code and no pressure – simply come as you would if you were heading out for a nice meal or drinks with friends.
First impressions do matter, but confidence matters more. Choose something comfortable, smart/casual, and “you”. When you feel good in what you’re wearing, it naturally shows in how you carry yourself and how you interact with others.
As a general rule, please avoid trainers, sportswear, and caps at our evening socials.
2. Be curious, not impressive
You don’t need a rehearsed introduction or a list of clever talking points. The easiest way to connect with people is simply to show genuine interest.
Ask questions. Listen properly. Be present in the conversation, even if you don’t feel an immediate connection. Everyone deserves to feel welcomed and included, and you’ll often find that curiosity is returned in kind.
3. If you come with someone, don’t cling together
Most people attend our meetups on their own, but occasionally people arrive with a friend or someone they’ve met at a previous social.
If that’s you, try to gently split off and mingle separately. We’ve noticed that those who stay in their comfort bubble often miss out on the wider picture. The more people you chat to, the more relaxed and enjoyable your experience becomes.
4. Not every conversation needs to lead somewhere
You’ll click with some people more than others, and that’s totally normal.
If a conversation naturally comes to an end, let it. If someone doesn’t want to swap details or continue chatting, that’s ok too. There’s no rejection here, just different paths crossing briefly. Be kind, respectful, and move on knowing you’ve done nothing wrong.
5. Focus on enjoyment, not outcomes
This is the most important tip of all.
Our meetups aren’t about “finding the one”. They’re about getting out of the house, broadening your social circle, and enjoying real-life connection in a relaxed, pressure-free environment.
Come with an open mind, a positive attitude, and a sense of fun. Get involved, join in the laughs, chat to someone new, or simply soak up the atmosphere. When you stop chasing outcomes, the experience becomes infinitely better.
Turn up as you are, take a breath, and enjoy being part of something genuinely beautiful.
